- Title: Talking from 9 to 5: Women and Men at Work
- Author: Deborah Tannen
- ISBN: 9780380717835
- Page: 405
- Format: Paperback
Your project went off without a hitch but somebody else got the creditYou averted a crisis brilliantly but no one noticedYou came to the meeting with a sensational idea but it was ignored until someone else said the same thingHOW CAN YOU GET CREDIT GET AHEAD In her extraordinary international bestseller, You Just Don t Understand, Deborah Tannen transformYour project went off without a hitch but somebody else got the creditYou averted a crisis brilliantly but no one noticedYou came to the meeting with a sensational idea but it was ignored until someone else said the same thingHOW CAN YOU GET CREDIT GET AHEAD In her extraordinary international bestseller, You Just Don t Understand, Deborah Tannen transformed forever the way we look at intimate relationships between women and men Now she turns her keen ear and observant eye toward the workplace where the ways in which men and women communicate can determine who gets heard, who gets ahead, and what gets done.An instant classic, Talking From 9 to 5 brilliantly explains women s and men s conversational rituals and the language barriers we unintentionally erect in the business world It is a unique and invaluable guide to recognizing the verbal power games and miscommunications that cause good work to be underappreciated or go unnoticed an essential tool for promoting positive and productive professional relationships among men and women.
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Deborah Tannen is a linguist and was affiliated with a university that my mother-in-law, a former librarian, worked at and brought to my attention. I am now reading her books as it relates to communication with my 13 year old daughter, to ensure that the negative dynamics that other mothers of daughters does not enter into our relationship.I find authors who resonate with me, and tend to read anything they write thereafter. For instance, if an author, from my opinion, tends to stereotype, I cann [...]
I don't remember how this got onto my book shelves, but there it was when I was looking for something to read.Wish I'd read it years ago. When I think back to the times in my work life when I had difficulty, it was never because I couldn't accomplish a technical task. No, it was because I couldn't communicate effectively with a co-worker or boss. (Sometimes my being a knucklehead didn't help either.)The book is written, I think it's fair to say, for the benefit of women, but it works as a good g [...]
The book would probably be most helpful for people in managerial roles. It is more of a guide to understanding communication styles than a guide to improving one's own. I did find it very interesting though. It gave a concrete voice to many of my own perceptions about the way I am perceived and helped me to understand one of my co-workers in particular who has a communication style at the exact opposite end of the spectrum from my own (and one that I don't often encounter in southern society). I [...]
Really useful in understanding how wrong conversations can go. Helps in understanding how the same words don't mean the same to the speaker and listener. Adds much perspective to many of the problems we see in today's culture wars. Highly recommend reading any/all of Deborah Tannen's books.I don't always agree with her but she does cause me to stop and think more before getting angry. I also laugh more when miscommunication happens when I find myself saying "I just said that didn't you listen to [...]
This is an excellent resource for women and a beautiful sociolinguistic bit of research. Tannen is a serious linguistic researcher who, as it happens, has found a mainstream readership and has successfully marketed herself into a general interest category. She impresses me to no end. If you like Pinker, you'll also like Tannen.
Deborah Tannen is brilliant. I have been devouring her books, and this is the latest that I've read. Her insights are not just observations; they are reinforced by scientific research. She elucidates how our language works and how it is affected by status, gender, and specific circumstance. It's fascinating, but it's also really, really helpful.
I've read several books by Deborah Tannen. She offers insight into the differences between how men and women think, and therefore speak differently. She explains the valid reasons behind both gender styles of communication. This book focuses mainly on conversations in the workplace.
I learned more about the spectrum of communication styles, especially when people communicate indirectly. Insightful as to why miscommunication occurs.
I'd really like to read more of Deborah Tannen, and more about sociolinguistics as well.
still reading. But this girl says what needs to be said. Brain Candy.
Male or female, if you go to a workplace, this book will probably help you understand different styles of communication. Tannen always does a good job of refraining from pointing fingers and saying "You should" or "You shouldn't," but any woman who's ever been at a meeting where her comment is ignored and then repeated later by a man without giving her credit will really appreciate the book. ; )I particularly liked the examples. The analysis of the examples often went on too long and seemed repe [...]
tl;dr - being 'marked' inevitably leads to being misunderstood, and professional women are inevitably markedI came to this book as a recommendation for those who do product management, both as a way to glean insight from interactions with somebody else, and as a caution to listen for what people mean versus what they say. The "women versus men" concerns felt dated, but I suspect that's more a measure of the place I work now than anything having gotten spectacularly better since the early 90s.Con [...]
I would highly recommend this book to communication scholars and also to anyone who, well, has a job. Extremely readable, although I thought the organization of the book seemed a little haphazard. It's especially helpful to anyone who does qualitative research and needs to consider what people say vis a vis what they mean. Reading the book gets you in a kind of mindset where you are primed to think intelligently about linguistic factors in speech and conversational rituals. Although I've read wo [...]
When I started reading this book, I didn't realize just how long ago 1994 was in the realm of workplace communication and office management. As such, a number of items (especially dress and makeup) are dated, but some things never change in 20 years: B. Mikulski is still a senator, and people are still giving H. Clinton grief.This book is long on detail and academia-speak (not necessarily bad things), but it is exceptionally short on action items. How do we, both women and men, change the situat [...]
Talking from 9 to 5, was relevant and helpful. 10/10 a credible source. It was structured well and contained a lot of info. Well researched and shows the fascinating differences in communication styles and intentions between men and women. Exactly how described. Tannen maintains that as children we are socialized to use language in particular ways. Stereotypically, boys are socialized one way; girls another. However, she also maintains that this socialization is not hard and fast just because of [...]
651.7 TANp286 It's hard for girls to influence boysIn coed classrooms, girls often become bystanders and observers, while the boys are active participants.p288 This does not mean women cannot get heard; it just means that they start out with a handicap that may be more easily overcome if tit is understood. Women - or anyone who feels ignored- may push themselves not to utter disclaimers: Just jump in and state an idea without worrying about how it is .Women must realize the double bend run a ri [...]
I was about to go back and re-read You Just Don't Understand: Men and Women in Conversation in order to write a workplace-focused article on the differences in conversational style between men and women, and then someone mentioned that Deborah Tannen had written a follow-up book that zeroed in on just that topic. I really enjoyed this book, which explored everything from how people speak in meetings to both real and perceived sexual harassment. Tannen's main argument is that men see the world in [...]
Yes, this book could use an update. Yes, some of the gender dynamics do seem irrelevant in 2013 (although I would be interested in how irrelevant they actually are if Tannen ever does update this - I've done a lot of research on gender and media, and even today the results are staggeringly discouraging). But this is still an immensely informative, well-researched book that will help you consider how you communicate with and respond to others, irrelevant of gender. I think this should be required [...]
Tannen, Deborah (1994), Talking From 9 to 5: How Women’s and Men’s Conversation Styles Affect Who Gets Heard, Who Gets Credit, and What Gets Done at Work, William Morrow, and Company, New York, NY. This book gives a number of remarkable insights about differences in communication style between men and women, and across different country cultures. It shows how differences in conversation style may subtly undermine a person’s attempts to be understood, to exert influence, and to mobilize sup [...]
Another excellent breakdown of how we speak to each other. This is not, shall we say, an encouraging book if you're female working in a male-dominated industry, but it does break down the problem into manageable bits. Really interesting chapter on the number and significance of choices that women make in presentation even before they open their mouths (would be interesting to think about this for men in tech culture, since their manner of dress and presentation is a lot less circumscribed than i [...]
Tannen's linguistic perspective is a valuable piece of the puzzle for understanding gender in the so-called "professional" sphere. This is an analysis, so it suggests insight and pattern, rather than tips or advice. In fact, when women do try to emulate male-gendered speech patterns, they're often penalized. Damned-do-damned-don't, etc. Nevertheless, seeing the typical office workplace as a social scientist would is empowering intellectually. (Note that it was written in the mid-1990s, so some s [...]
This book was recommended to me because I was having some communication issues at work. It was really fascinating to learn about some different styles of communication, although I don't think it would have helped me prevent the particular trap I fell into. It also offered interesting insights into work-related issues, such as being passed over for promotion and other phenomenon of the workplace.I didn't expect this sort of analysis so it gets bonus points from me for it, even though I will admit [...]
Fascinating research from sociolinguist Dr Tannen on how men and women communicate in the workplace, and how that affects their progress and perceptions. Particularly strong on the glass ceiling, how women do/don't market themselves as leaders and idea-generators, and the perceptions and misperceptions around sexual harrassment. Some interesting stuff on how women are judged on their looks and how often (not often) they speak, and are heard, in meeting situations.
Requiring the reading of this book is the same as requiring the reading of a chemistry book from the 1900's, its old and antiquated. Though the information may have been great for its time, society has come far beyond the woman as the appologist and the man as the insensitive boss. People are more in touch with the feelings and sensitivities of others than ever before. I am a man and I like to look a person in the eyes when I talk to them.
An amazing book with some really good insights. We don't even realize how communication style differ between individuals. This book hypothesize that women face an uphill battle because of their inherent communication style and because of the expectations from them. These insights can help anyone to create a strategy for effective communication and also help understand other's communication style.
Very interesting but Tannen repeats herself a lot, which can make parts of the book boring. Throughout the book, she discusses the general differences between men and women's speaking styles and how that affects their success at work, repeatedly emphasizing that both styles are valid and neither is inherently better than the other. I particularly appreciate that she devoted a chapter to sexual harassment and how language plays into that.
One of the few books that was required reading for my formal education, Talking from 9 to 5 is a good starting point to examining workplace communication. Unfortunately, like any communication book I've come across, it only stands well in principle, since communication changes and grows with each passing minute.
Out of date research presented on the differences between men's and women's patterns of speaking in the workplace. More focused on recognizing what women do differently and suggesting how women can speak more like men than looking for common grounds and effective patterns. Short. Required reading for a grad school class.
Even though this book is over 16 years old, it still has relevant points in how men and women communicate in the worplace. Learned alot about how the ways we communicate affect the others in my life!
I read this book for my gender in communications class. It's very much an educational book but I still liked it. It discusses the differences between men and women in the workforce. Now that I'm in the workforce this book is so right!
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